What can you do when your loved one doesn’t want to stop, doesn’t want help or doesn’t want treatment?
Historically, when people have needed treatment, the rehabs have asked whether the client wants to come or not, and proclaiming that unless someone is highly motivated then it’s a waste of time.
The reality is that, unfortunately far too often, people in the grips of their addiction aren’t willing to accept help for a great many reasons, such as denial of a problem, unwillingness to consider change, fear of what their life may be like post treatment, shame, stigma, or many many other reasons, which ultimately leave them stuck in their debilitating behaviours and on a fast track towards prison, asylums, or ultimately death.
But there is a solution. And it’s a solution that genuinely works. Over the past 10 – 20 years (depending on where you are in the world) there’s been a growing movement of professional Interventionists who are supporting families in effectively communicating with the afflicted person to enable them to come to the right decision and accept the help the families are lovingly offering them.
Interventionists are specifically trained in the field of confronting addiction head on and building a dialogue that results in the addict choosing to attend rehab, right away, thus avoiding them falling any further into the depths and consequences of their addictions.
So there really is hope!
A professional Interventionist is trained to deal with the ways in which addicts avoid change and live in denial. If someone is less than willing to discuss their predicament, then asking for the support of an Interventionist is the very best choice you can make.
Experience shows that avoidance and denial is frequently overcome. Once a new resident arrives to us at The PARC they immediately begin the journey of recovery, usually with remarkable success, particularly because of the Intervention experience and all that it does to unite the family in love towards their healthy son / daughter / sibling, etc, and away from their addictive disease.
The good news about Residential Rehab is that it really does work, and is not too heavily dependant upon the individual’s initial motivation for being there.
There are two principles which lead towards a successful treatment and neither of them depend particularly upon the individual’s initial motivation for change.
Putting someone into a facility with a recovery-based community of a similar age and culture is vital. When your loved-one attends The PARC, they will find themselves immersed in a stable and powerful recovery-focused community that inspires newly arriving clients into adopting the Recovery principles. Furthermore, we’ll inform you if your loved one is currently a good fit for our current population.
The length of time someone is in treatment substantially increases their chances of a full and lasting recovery. The shorter the period of treatment, the less likely they are to remain in recovery over the long-term. The PARC has designed its full 12-week Signature program specifically to support this, though shorter periods are also effective in many cases (typically people stay for 60 days).
Ian Young, one of the co-Founders’ of The PARC is one of Europe’s leading Interventionists, having become one of the first non North American practitioners to adopt this skill, since 2008 in one of his supporting businesses www.Sober-Services.com
Furthermore, he went on to create the only Certifiable Training of Interventionists outside of North America, which he has been delivering (mostly in Europe) since 2015, called www.Sober-Academy.com
So now, having trained and certified around 100 new practising Interventionists from around many parts of the world, if he cannot personally find the time to come and deliver your family intervention for you, then he has many people in his network to choose from.
The Intervention process he uses is delivered by coaching the family through his process to confront the addict / alcoholic from a place of absolute love and complete honesty. Using these principles alone he’s found that 85% of the Interventions are immediately successful.
However, we will always create a contingency plan based upon the enabling patterns that can be picked up whilst listening to the individual family members own stories of how they’re interacting with the addict. So the immediate family, under the guidance of the Interventionist will create a “plan B” which must include the family being open to their own changes, setting new boundaries and enforcing a change of rules and dynamics for the addict to abide to, if they do not accept treatment, essentially create the fear of a potential consequence that no longer enables the addict to serve their illness with the family’s cooperation. It’s a very powerful process.
The family are not asked to disown the addict, but to move into healthy boundaries and create space for the addict to make a clear distinction between what their illness is telling them to do, versus what a healthy option would look like.
When you consider that part of the reason the initial inquiry was made is usually because the family has run out of options, and so by trying things differently we’re able to make big shifts in the addicts thinking and behaviour particularly fast – usually within just one hour.
Please contact Ian Young of The PARC to discuss how we can best serve you and your family through an intervention process.
ian@PhuketARC.com or call us directly.
The Phuket Addiction Recovery Clinic “The PARC” is a 12 Step (non-Religious) residential treatment centre for people struggling with addictions.
We use the 12 Step Program of Recovery because it has already been proven to work.
Our minimum stay is 28 days, though most of our Residents extend for 2 months. Some people commit to our full 12 week program, which we believe is the optimal amount of time to spend in rehab, if you have the luxury of spending that much time and money on yourself.
We’ve kept the costs down to a minimum, without compromising on our great standards of care and comfort, in our efforts to serve as many families as possible. We hope that we’re able to work with you and your budget. Please speak to us to discuss your situation and we’ll do our best to accommodate your specific requirements.
How Intervention Works
The PARC has at its core of staff an Internationally recognised and respected insured and certified Interventionist. Our experience shows that Interventions are successful with almost every family, so long as the family is willing to follow the professional’s direction, who will spend a great deal of time and focus planning the procedure to make sure all bases are covered.
The Interventionist is going to ask the family to step into roles that they may be challenging or unfamiliar to them. They are going to be coaching you to understand that the kind of love that and Intervention requires will often be one of “tough love” and requests a strutted confrontation process. The addict will learn that their addiction will no longer be tolerated, and that this decision is one unity (from the family) and motivated by sincere love and care for their wellbeing.
We understand that this can sometimes be a difficult position for family members to take. This is precisely why the role of the Interventionist and the highly successful process driven format of interventions exists. The very structure of the Intervention, led by a trained and experienced professional Interventionist will lead to a successful outcome. Rushing or poor planning of an intervention can make matters worse. A serious Interventionist will coach and support you through the whole process and ensure everyone gets the result they desire – especially your loved one – access and motivation into The PARC.